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The super power of boobs

The super power of boobs

August 4, 2006

Normally I stay away from any topic that is controversial or not related to me specifically. Since this blog is my own narcissistic rant.

But this article got me.

Who are these people who are so offended by a photograph of a nursing baby that they would tear the cover off of it so their husband would not see it? Honestly has he never seen your breasts before? And what about those Playboy magazines he sneaks peeks at in the store… do those make him uncomfortable too?

Truthfully I have seen more boobage on prime time television and don’t even get me started on the whole Mtv thing.

So the message we are sending is that it is okay to see breasts in a sexualized manner, but not for what they are actually intended to do.

I just don’t get it.

Posted by Chris @ 10:10 am  

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  1. Elena says:

    Oh, I so agree! What a hypocritical world we live in. I mean, really, it’s not acceptable to feed your baby (and usually totally discreetly even practically smothering under a blanket) in public but yet it’s okay for cleavage to spill out in every other situation (and call it a “wardrobe malfunction”).

    Grrrrrr.

  2. Rebecca says:

    “Sweet mother of pearl! My husband might see…. (Gasp!) BOOBS!”
    People are so anti-breastfeeding that it’s SHOCKING! While I was pregnant with the latest, I was talking with a young cousin in a store, and she asked me why I wasn’t buying some bottles. I wouldn’t need them, I said, because I breastfed my babies.
    “Oh, that,” she said, scornfully, “I remember that you did that EVERYWHERE.”
    That? As in, feeding the baby, that?

  3. Brigitte says:

    Ha, those so-called “shocked readers” of the magazine . . . have they never noticed that there are at least 50 similar photos in EVERY ISSUE? What lying hypocrites (Grrrr). That’s what boobs are for, anyway, it’s like being disturbed by a can of Similac.

  4. Chris says:

    I am thinking the 25% of the ‘outraged’ people are still living in the hills. I am pretty sure the mother from Kansas, was from southern Kansas…

    It is pathetic that some in our modern day society still think nursing is unacceptable. Yet prime time television is practically flashing us boobies every night, and that is acceptable. WTF?

    I always made it a point to nurse in front of people who was uncomfortable with it. But I am just that way…

  5. Meepers says:

    That is riCOCKulous (what I say when things have moved way, way beyond ridiculous, by way of explanation) No wonder this country is in such an ethical/moral morass…NURSING BOOBS ARE BAD? You’re kidding me! No kids, but I would definitely be proud to whip out a boob in public just to piss those kinds of people off… you know, that and FEED MY KID the way our bodies were made to!

  6. Melessa says:

    I saw that one too. What I really found amusing was that many of the women who ripped the page off had breastfed their children. Huh?! I don’t get it either.

  7. Woman with Kids says:

    I just saw that article, and had to post about it too… Have these women never turned on the TV? Thank goodness there is nothing really bad going on in the world, that we can all be worked up over the little things.

  8. Shelly says:

    Oh and it’s not just the Playboy magazines. If you go through the checkoutline at any grocery store, you can get some good clevage shots. But nursing…come on people - get over it.

  9. Lauren says:

    What’s with Yahoo News making it all about people who hated the cover? The story says that they got 5,000 letters, but only 25 percent of them “expressed outrage.” Couldn’t they have interviewed someone in the other 75 percent too?

    That cover makes me smile every time I see it. It’s just so sweet?

  10. Debbie says:

    No such thing as bad publicity… maybe it will make people think positively about b-feeding when they see all the rednecks hating it?

    I can’t imagine what repression their family lives under if they have to pretend men don’t find breasts nice to look at *rolls eyes*

    What camera do you use, Chris. The photos on flikr have some wonderful colours. How many megapixels you got?

  11. Katie says:

    I think the pictures is really cute, what an adorable baby. It’s just a boob, everyone needs to get over themselves.

  12. mummyv says:

    I agree! what’s the big deal. and let’s be real.. don’t we see la lohan, jessica s, several thousand maxim covers etc showing boobage on a daily basis? isn’t it more offensive to see janet jackson’s cleavage than a mother FEEDING her child? not that i’m biased/insane/etc it’s the hypocracy of it all that makes me nuts - showing breasts in a sexual way on a magazine cover or on television is fine, but showing them in a non-sexual, life-giving way is not…??

  13. Antique Mommy says:

    I don’t get it either. Boobs are everywhere these day and so I don’t understand how anyone can possibly be either offended or titilated (really, no pun because that would just be so bad) At this point, it’s seen one, seen ‘em all. They are no longer sacred or mysterious, so who cares anymore.

  14. judi casey says:

    these people really need to get a life.
    what husband is uncomfortable seeing a breast?
    where has he been all these years? a monastery?
    their sex life must be a blast.

    and as for the woman who is sick of seeing babies attached to breasts- would you rather see them starving?

    what is wrong with our country. too bad our forefathers were puritans. we are still coping with the ramifications.

  15. Shotgun says:

    Sadly, I think this shows how modern culture has infiltrated our lives. Now it’s MORE acceptable to see a breast in a sexual way than it is to see it in the way they were intended to be used. Women have breasts so they can feed their babies. The fact that they may also look good in sweaters or cleavage baring tops is just a bonus, mainly for the opposite sex. It’s very sad.

  16. Michele says:

    You don’t even have to look at television to see boobage, I see plenty of it just in the skimpy (skanky) tops that females walk around in nowadays. Heck, if my boobs looked like that after breastfeeding my two kids, I would put them on a magazine cover too. Unfortunately, I got the lovely stretch marks when I went from a B to a D cup.

  17. Daisy says:

    I haven’t seen the cover yet — but I’ll look for it now. It’s like Victoria’s Secret (was that in June?) all over again.

  18. Novaks8 says:

    I had posted something similar on my blog and even linked to your post about the girl at the DMV who was scantily clad.

    I think the media twists things to make news myself.

    If only 5,000 people thought enough to write and only 25% were negative….that is a very small percentage of total readers.

  19. peepnroosmom says:

    Unbelievable!

  20. Novaks8 says:

    Also, did you notice the misspelling of the word GAUGE?

    They spelled it gage.

    It took me about 5 seconds to pull out the Webster’s and check to make sure I was correct.

    Pretty sad for a national news story.

    I have never had one person complain or even give me a funny look for nursing in public and I live in the Old South!

  21. Jeff says:

    I like telling my breast feeding / I am clueless stories and this is a perfect opportunity for me to do so.

    I take the girls to gymnastics/dance class and go to the mom filled observation room. There will be someone in the room who is holding their baby in an awkward position. Is the baby sleeping? Is she in some sort of sling? Does the mom have a back ache? I keep looking to figure it out. After a few seconds the mom who is feeding that day will notice. Usually she just smiles and asks how I am doing. When I realize what the mom is doing, I get flustered. This has happened more then once. But it is not my fault, there are so many ways that you moms hold them. Luckily, most of the moms there know me.

    One time I sat down and had a conversation next to one of a nursing moms without knowing it. My wife came in later and after class, complimented me on how well I handled myself. I am really clueless.

  22. Angela says:

    Aw hell, that could be my elbow that baby is sucking on. For pete’s sake people need to get hobbies. Outside of trumping up the world’s most prudish inhabitant.

  23. Thorny says:

    I agree with Lauren - nice of the news story to act like a /majority/ of people were up in arms against that cover. I know I sent a message to BabyTalk praising them for their cover, and apparently 75% of 4999 other people did as well. So how come the news story is all about the “uproar”?

    I mean, I think it’s really disappointing that 25% of the people who wrote to BabyTalk are against that cover photo, for all the reasons people here have mentioned. But I guess I’d never considered 1250 people an “uproar”, especially when there are 3750 people who are squarely against them.

    Gosh, do you suppose the media’s just trying to whip up another round of the Mommy Wars? Grrr. Jerks!

  24. anne nahm says:

    I posted on that article today as well!

    http://annenahm.com/?p=154

    On my livejournal, I actually had some comments that agreed with the negative commentary that breastfeeding made people uncomfortable.

    It is unbelievable that people are so out of touch with what our bodies are made to do.

    Previously, I had been nervous to breastfeed in public. Now that I see 57% of the people are also uncomfortable? I realize I have to put it out (haha!) there to be supportive of other breastfeeding mothers.

  25. Jurgen Nation says:

    I saw this, too. I cannot believe people sometimes. We are a society of hypocrites with sticks up our arses. (Can I say “arse” here?)

  26. Nicki says:

    Why aren’t these people worried about the hem lines on their daughter’s skirts and shorts. Or the fact that if the cleavage plunges any lower and the hem line on the shirt rises anymore shirts are going to turn into a small string (I mean a single string) across the breast line.

    They need to start worrying about what their kid are doing instead of some poor woman trying to feed her kid. Society is just messed up.

  27. MotherReader says:

    My favorite quote from the article, the one that is sooo off it seems like it must have been made up is this:

    “Gross, I am sick of seeing a baby attached to a boob,” the mother of a four-month-old said.

    It’s just so stupid, it’s funny. Who could say that? What is wrong with this MOTHER of a BABY?

  28. Heather says:

    http://hereismygarden.blogspot.com/2006/07/give-me-break-apparently-news-would.html#links

    I blogged about this a few days ago!! I was SOOOO pisses when the news ran this story!

  29. Colleen says:

    When I first saw the cover on my counter from the mail I thought “whoa! thats a boob! on the cover of a magazine! But you know what, it didnt bother me in the least! I have huge issues with pornography, but this was not pornographic in the least. I wouldn’t even care if my husband saw it, in fact, I showed it to him. I nurse my son every day so he has seen a nursing baby before. It is NOT a big deal. To me, it is SO precious, SO natural, so UN-sexual.
    Frankly, I thought that the picture was beautiful!

  30. cheeriobutt says:

    Now that just hacks me off! What is wrong with our society??? STILL trying to degrade women to nothing but sex machines right? Whatever!!

  31. Daisy says:

    Wow, Chris, you’ve struck a chord with many of us! Your comments are growing by the minute.

    Not to milk this for all it’s worth, but for another reflection on the controversy that’s busted out, try my blog here.
    http://compostermom.blogspot.com/2006/08/controversys-busting-out-again.html

  32. debi says:

    “I’m sick of seeing a baby attached to a boob”????? I must say, I’d much rather see a baby in it’s more natural state. Attached to a silicone niple drinking a man-made replica of breast milk. Or better yet, let’s just not view pictures of babies eating at all, because it really is offensive. Makes perfect sense.

  33. Elizabeth says:

    I love the article title printed on the baby’s head: “Why Women Don’t Nurse Longer.” Do you suppose inside it says “They just get so damn sick of seeing a baby attached to a boob!”

    I loved Jeff’s stories. I remember hearing about a nursing mother who was actually nursing at the dinner table when her male guest asked if they were bottle or breast-feeding - he honestly hadn’t noticed.

  34. Elizabeth says:

    Okay, now I have to post again. I just showed the picture to my 18-year-old DD and she did express shock at first - because she thought it was a photo of a baby kissing another baby’s butt!

    You know, it doesn’t look latched on very well for that matter.

  35. Mother says:

    I wouldn’t be surprised if half of them have husbands with Maxim, FHM, you name it subscriptions where our Hollywood lovelies tell us what makes them HOT.

    Ugh.

  36. Izzy says:

    I went off on a similar thing a few months ago because a supermarket told a woman to stop breastfeeding as it was making other patrons uncomfortable. I was so steamed. As you said, you can see more boobage at the beach or on MTV. They’re for feeding babies, first and foremost. Arghhhhhhh…it still infuriates me every time I think about it.

    Only in America…*sigh*

  37. Jennifer says:

    Good topic, Chris.

    What cracks me up is that is not a picture of a boob. It’s a picture of a baby breastfeeding.

    In Italy they shows boobs all over the place. Women breastfeed all over the place. It’s normal and strangers will even come over to get a closer look at your suckling child.

    For years the Milan subway cars had advertisements for IT classes up next to the sliding doors. The image was of a bright-eyed, open-mouthed baby about to latch on to his mother’s breast. The breast was bigger than the baby and the nipple was in the very center of the ad. It always cracked me up and once I asked my husband if he knew what an about-to-nurse baby had to do with computers. He laughed and said it was just an excuse to get the attention of their target: young men.

  38. Jennifer says:

    Also: did anyone notice the title in white print in the lower corner of the cover?

    “Quickie routines that work”

    I totally thought they meant quick sex until I looked a little closer and realized they were talking about work outs.

  39. Heather says:

    After reading this, I am engraged. What is wrong with people? Especially women who seemed to express the most disgust and resentment about this picture! This is what our breast’s were intended for. I dont see people running around ranting about Pamela Anderson flashing her silicone twins and ass around in front of these same womens husbands AND sons, on regular TV!

  40. gwswmltd says:

    Yes, just another example of the stupid American public running amuck. Breasts: absolutely fine if they are pushed in every fashion magazine and exposed for the sole and exclusive purpose of sexually explicit material. Not acceptable when modeled as what God actually intended them for. Brilliant! Just friggin’ brilliant. I love the dumbing down of America - we are just sooo entertaining these days.

  41. Carola says:

    I can’t belive some people will see this picture with dirty eyes…it is a wonderful picture, natural, about the most beautiful miracle in life after giving birth, which is being able to feed a baby with your own milk. There is something definitely wrong in this society.

  42. sandra says:

    Hey Chris. (Not THE Chris; Chris the commenter.) Seems to me that snap judgments based on geography are just as offensive and borne of ignorance as the attitude that nursing in public is unacceptable.
    - sandra, nursing mom of two from southern Kansas

  43. Suburban Turmoil says:

    This is so ridiculous. These women must’ve crawled out from rocks or something. No wonder I feel a little awkward when I have to breastfeed in a public restroom lounge. The funny looks aren’t imagined!

  44. rachel says:

    I was just talking to my husband about this last night on the drive home. He was boggled by the comments in the article. All boys notice breasts - shouldn’t they learn what their purpose is?

    It’s funny - I never got any negative comments in Texas, but I got several when we lived in Connecticut. I think there are oddballs everywhere.

  45. Lisa V says:

    Here is a great site of women bloggers breast feeding for the internet.

    http://wetfeet.typepad.com/wet_feet/2006/07/boobie_talk.html

  46. T in HD says:

    Silly girls, breasts are for advertising SEX. Using or displaying them for any other purpose is just disgusting and immoral.

    The hypocrisy in America is depressing. You’d probably find people b*tching about public breastfeeding on nude beach in America! The fact is, people here (in Germany) just don’t care about breasts, whether they are being displayed sexually or being used to feed a baby. People might think I’m crazy for nursing my toddlers (not many mums here nurse past 4-6 months) but it’s not because they give flying f*rt in outer space that breasts are involved.

  47. Ashley says:

    I just don’t get it. It makes me pretty thankful that I live in a crucnhy, backwards, alternative little town where every body breast feeds, has their babies at home, and wears birkenstocks, LOL. I think the look in that little babies eyes is so precious, it is the reason I nurse longer. And you know what, I actually get sad when I see a baby with a bottle propped up in her mouth.

  48. Meepers says:

    Hi Chris (THE Chris)

    Just a quick note to say that my buddy Pete, the SightSpeed Guy (he’s linked on my blog’s link page, Chock Late, The Linkening), or you can go right to Talking To Fish at: http://sightspeed.blogspot.com - So you’re not the only one who thinks this is crazy - even a man with no kids notices how stupid and Puritannical it is.

  49. Maddy says:

    Perhaps a McDonald’s or KFC logo on the offending boob would have made it more palatable.

    Ridiculous!

  50. mere says:

    Howdy!

    Folks are just so weird about breastfeeding and it’s stupid. There has been a controversy lately in my neck of the woods where a woman who was sitting on the side of the public breastfeeding her baby and supervising her toddler in the pool, was asked by the pool manager to go somewhere else to do it or stop because she was distracting the life guards from doing their job. However, I don’t think he extended that same bit of logic to the bikini clad, buxom young women who were, no doubt, in attendance at the pool that day.

    I think the picture is precious.

    mere

  51. mere says:

    Whoops, that was “public pool”. Hard to type one handed, I was busy NURSING the baby!

    mere

  52. Suebob says:

    I posted about this, too - about my BFs reaction to it:

    http://redstapler23.blogspot.com/2006/08/why-we-love-mr-stapler.html

  53. Shelby says:

    What is wrong with the women that had to turn the magazine over or tear the page off. I feel sorry for the children they are raising.

  54. Gillian says:

    This is so sad. My daughter is 30 now and when she was a baby I nursed her. It was not a popular thing to do, but for some reason I wasn’t troubled by that. When she was three months old she went into congestive heart failure. She has a very rare heart problem that was life threatening in infancy but is just part of who she is today. I can’t count the number of times that I was able to hold that baby in a stark, noisy and ugly hospital room and by nursing her make a small circle of home around us. Whatever happened in her world, nursing was a constant nurturing anchor for both of us. And every hospital I was in would ask if I could express milk for the preemies because it made such a difference for them. I feel sorry for people whose misconceptions make them find nursing disgusting or embarrassing. Happily those folks weren’t actually carried in a flesh and blood womb and born all covered with goo but were left by fairys in a cabbage patch. Otherwise birth would be disgusting as well.

  55. Thicket Dweller says:

    After I breastfed my first two children, I began believing that breastfeeding had become socially acceptable. I nursed my babies in public (”What? Do YOU eat in the bathroom?”) and never apologized for it, but I was discreet and modest.

    Years later, I had a dear friend who really wanted to nurse her third and likely her last baby. She called me with problems, beginning with the doctors telling her that her breastfeeding was causing the baby to be jaundiced. Obstacle after obstacle later, she finally quit. It wasn’t until one of her home-day-care clients picked up her baby and nursed her before she left that I found out what was likely the underlying reason for her quitting; her husband, a man who seems to be very wonderful in every other way, was very embarrassed by his wife or any other woman breastfeeding–those things were for HIM. I was heartbroken.

    I can’t imagine living in a home with a bonehead who doesn’t understand God’s purposes for me and my body. It would be a complete nightmare. My prayers go up for the women who have to deal with insecurities on a regular basis. Let’s hope God strikes them with wisdom and they can be free of all that garbage.

  56. Monica says:

    I can’t take credit for the quote but I love it:

    “If breasts are sexual and taking a breast out for a feeding is wrong, isn’t taking a bottle, made to resemble said breast, like whipping out a dildo?”

  57. geminishadow says:

    Hmmm…I have that issue….I’ve had it lying around my house for all to see….but I had to click on the link to see it to know what you were talking about. I didn’t even notice that there was a breast on the cover, neither did my husband, or his male cousin who lives with us. That kind of thing just doesn’t bother us and its really hard for me to understand why it bothers other people. I mean come on…they are just boobs…we see them all time…thats the whole reason we have them. Men should be greatful to babies, for it wasn’t for them needing to nurse, we wouldn’t have boobs!

  58. Susan says:

    That article made my blood boil.

    And this is SO TRUE:

    “There is a real puritanical streak in America,” Moran told AFP. “You see celebrities practically baring their breasts all the time and no one seems to mind in this sort of sexual context.

    ~I~ am offended by the dresses I see on the red carpet, cut down to the navel! THAT is offensive to ME.

    How on earth can someone view breastfeeding as “GROSS” or “EMBARRASSING?”

    I am speechless.

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