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Love is…

Love is…

September 28, 2006

Last night I was laying in bed text messaging my husband. The lure of text messaging has long escaped me. If you want to talk to me pick up the phone and call me, like we used to do back in the old days. Or email me, even better.

Rob was enroute to NYC for an early morning meeting, having delayed his departure until after the boys’ baseball practice. The tunnels make phone reception spotty, and so we channeled our inner adolescent selves and sent text messages back and forth.

That’s love, right there. I am not sure how you photograph that. The weekends given up, the adult pursuits that are left by the wayside, the leaving work early so that you can coach the team, the working late on other nights to make up for it. Riding the train into the city at 11:00 at night rather than miss any of it.

Love is spending an hour text messaging back and forth, typing with your thumbs like a 12 year old girl arranging a sleep-over, when a 2 minute phone conversation could have covered it all, and then some.

Love in the 21st century

Love is still wanting to talk to the person you married the very last thing before you fall asleep, even after 15 years.

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Posted by Chris @ 9:58 am  

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  1. lipstickface says:


  2. jody2ms says:

    Very, very sweet.

  3. 1girl2boys says:

    Aw, how sweet. What a good wife you are.

  4. Darren McLikeshimself says:

    Nabby and I text all the time, and it drives me crazy. But I wouldn’t give it up for anything.

  5. shaz says:

    that’s really sweet. all the best…

  6. Playdate Susan says:

    How is it that your text message made me tear up?


  7. Cheryl says:

    very sweet :)

  8. Novaks8 says:

    You are blessed.

  9. Erika says:

    yup thats love!

  10. Nicki says:

    my husband and i use instant messaging when he’s a work. I probably drive him crazy….but that’s my job.

  11. Tina says:

    Yes! LOVE technology today!!! My husband is in the Navy and when he’s out to sea, email is the MOST wonderful thing in the world! At least now I can “talk” to him everyday, whereas before sometime it would be 3 weeks before I got a letter in the mail!

    LOVE IT!

  12. rachel says:

    very sweet.

    I can never make the text messaging work right. but I IM my husband from upstairs to downstairs. that’s geek love. or just my sad life. :)

  13. Schatzi says:

    We text all day long while at work. We’re so sappy!

    Love the post!!

  14. Jennifer says:

    I love people who openly love their husbands instead of trashing them. So sweet!

  15. Jennifer P says:

    My hubby and I met on the internet. After a three month email-only introductory period, we met face to face, and a month later moved in together. He got transferred to another state shortly thereafter, so we survived a six-month long distance engagement via IM’ing each other multiple times a day. Once we were re-united and then married, we got cell phones to text message each other at work. To this day, if we have relationship problems, we actually resort back to the email thing. Somehow, we can speak honestly to each other through writing, and have done so for so long that very little is misinterpreted by the other. In our relationship, technology is not only wonderful, but almost imperative!

  16. Bozoette Mary says:

    Absolutely right! My husband and I text when the plane I happen to be on lands — it’s amazing, but it starts to vibrate almost immediately.

  17. halloweenlover says:

    Awww, I love it! And it makes me feel better to know that this never ends. Josh and I still miss each other during the day.

  18. Amy says:

    We don’t text message but we sit on the couch and email each other on our laptops. Like what sites we like or files we need. Crazy, huh!


  19. Jen says:

    I think you’re really lucky to have such a great relationship with your husband–especially since you have kids! My husband and I struggle with this quite a bit. You’re very blessed!

  20. meredith says:

    That’s a great love thursday message….as I sit waiting for the phone to ring with news from my husband who’s en transit tonight.

  21. peepnroosmom says:

    AWWW! How sweet.

  22. madre-terra says:

    With so many kids I’m glad to hear you guys are so solid….
    nice love Thursday to you.

  23. CaliforniaGrammy says:

    We don’t do text “message-ing” but we do say “I love you” nearly every night before nodding off to sleep . . . even after 43 years of marriage! That’s something I hope I never get bored with. Sweet post, Chris.

  24. Jenny says:

    I soooo feel you on this Chris!

    Every weekday morning of our seven year marriage, my husband has kissed me goodbye on the cheek as I slept before he left for work. He kisses three times. Once for each word of “I Love You.”

    He’s priceless.

  25. Peter says:

    I’ve just discovered your blog recently. You say what I’m thinking an awful lot! that’s awfully goodstuf. And text messaging works when all else fails. We all love it! I’ll write more to you when I’m sober, but in the mean time, know that what you write touches so many…all around the country..and no doubt the world. Congratulations on doing a wonderful thing.

  26. daring one says:

    You guys are vomitously cute. Maybe in the future love could include buying you a smart phone with a qwerty keyboard so it would be easier to text?

  27. Pastormac's Ann says:

    Aw, sweet.

    I love catching Pastormac online when he’s at a meeting or at work so we can Instant Message back and forth.

  28. cassie-b says:

    Touching -

    What a nice thing to do.

    How are your thumbs?

  29. Katie says:

    I completely agree with your last statement. I’ve been so spoiled by my husband not traveling much recently. And then he goes out of town this week with a nearly dead cell phone (and no charger). He called me on the hotel phone ($$$$!) to say good night still.

  30. InterstellarLass says:

    So true! You are fortunate!

  31. Jennifer says:

    that is so sweet!

  32. Karen Rani says:

    SO sweet! Hubby texts me several times a day, though it’s usually about how much he wants to get in my pants, or if he should pick up milk.

  33. shel says:

    Aw, very sweet!

  34. Ari (Baking and Books) says:

    That is love! You made me feel all warm and fuzzy.

  35. nabbalicious says:

    Texts are the best, especially the ones that are just to say “I love you.” Sweet post!

  36. D says:

    I’m delurking - just in time to say that I love texting with my hubs or my daughter. Sending goofy pictures to each other too: a shot of my shoes, or of the dog, or any ridiculous thing to make each other smile. Yes, it’s love.

  37. Jenna says:

    That’s adorable. We don’t text ($$!) but he will log on gmail at work (FD) and send a message to me. I still get giddy about it.

    Oh, nerdiness. :)

  38. zookeeper says:

    Sometimes my husband sends such the perfect message for me that day…the one thing I really needed to hear….and I think “God I love that man”. And then I save it. It never gets erased from my phone. I like days like that. :)