giving
April 19, 2007
I never ask people to donate money for causes. Usually it is because there are so many good and worthy things to donate your money to, who am I to decide that one is better or more important or more worthy of your attention.
But this time I am asking. For someone I don’t even know.
*****
When my sister in law was diagnosed with cancer ( a completely different kind of cancer, btw) and going through all of her treatments– chemo, radiation, and two bone marrow transplants– she said to me on the phone one day that she would never put herself through all of this except for her children. She was told that only 5% of people who make it through treatment survive past three years. And I had said that people play the lottery all the time with much worse odds.
Of course she would be in that 5%.
She died 16 months after her diagnosis.
Her funeral was the last time I went to church.
*****
Over 5000 of you come here everyday. I type out nonsense, stories about my kids, annoying people at the grocery store, even bad poetry. And I know what I am going to ask will turn some of you off. Perhaps you won’t come back because of it. But that is fine.
Heather has just been diagnosed with a brain tumor. She is a young mother to three children, one of whom has chronic health problems. And her doctor just told her that twenty years is a long time to live.
I look at my children and think 20 years is a long time? I think that this doctor couldn’t possibly have children of his own or he would know that 20 years is a drop in the bucket.
Heather and her husband are getting second and third opinions. They are not rich people.
And I have been reading her blog the past few days and she is so confident in her faith. Her belief in a God who has plans for her. I am in awe of that sort of faith.
What do I believe?
I believe in the inherent goodness of people. I believe that people want to make a difference.
I want to believe in that God of Heather’s, I do.
And so I am asking you to click that link and donate some money.
What about $1. You can afford a dollar.
What about $5? Give up your Starbucks coffee for one day and think of Heather… pray if you do that, or send good thoughts her way.
What about $10? Give up lunch out one day and brown bag it.
Get your children involved.
Ask your kids to search around the house and car for loose change. You might think it won’t make a difference. But it will. Teach your children the spirit of giving. Show them how giving will make them feel good.
Just give something.
And if you donate come back and leave me a comment. You will be entered in a drawing for some neat prizes. But I will write about those in another post later on today.
Edited to add: If you already donated to Heather that is fine too. Leave a comment and you will be entered in the drawing. And for those of you who have said oh I don’t want a prize. Yes you do! The prizes are not transferable to cash. I am not spending my money buying prizes or anything. People are donating things.
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My family donated yesterday.
I think your drawing is a brilliant idea-but if I should happen to win, I don’t need anything. Send the proceeds on to Heather, or give it to someone who might need it…
Unless it’s a gift card for books or alcohol-
No, I take it back. We don’t need anything. Knock on wood, my family is healthy, and there’s nothing else I really need or want.
Tamatha
April 19th, 2007 at 9:51 amthanks for letting us know about her. i donated a bit, and will pray for her health. i don’t need a prize either, but i did want to let you know that because of your link, someone new learned about her.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:03 amI donated yesterday…and your post is a great reminder as to why I did.
Thank you for posting this.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:04 amthanks for the link. Just one more person who never would have known without it…
April 19th, 2007 at 10:07 amThanks for posting about this for all your readers. I put a link on my blog a few days ago to tell people about Heather. I do not have that much Blog traffic but thought every little bit helps. I tried to make a donation yesterday and my computer was acting up….so thanks for reminding me. I was able to finally send in my donation a few min ago.
I read your blog everyday and I love your writing and your humor!!
April 19th, 2007 at 10:10 amThank you for posting this. The song on her site made me cry, and I can’t wait for my children to come home from school today so I can hug them - just a little longer than ususal. I’m donating too, but I don’t need to be in any drawing. If I win, send the prize (or what it would have cost) to Heather.
What would happen if we ALL put links to Heather on our sites?
April 19th, 2007 at 10:13 amI stopped to help out. I’ll also add a post to my own blog.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:16 amI made a donation today, thank you for posting this. I have no faith, myself, for many varied reasons… but I will keep best wishes for Heather and her family in my heart. no prize, please. Just keep writing and sharing with us, it is a wonderful gift.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:20 amBless you, sweet bloggy stranger-friend.
I cannot thank you enough.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:21 amChris, because of you, I found out about someone in need. I just went and made a donation and it’s my hope that many more of your readers will make a donation. I will keep Heather in my thoughts and prayers.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:33 amDone.
And i’ll blog about it too; i don’t have the readership that you do (5000??????? OMG), but i get a fair few people and if a few of them did the same, it will help
April 19th, 2007 at 10:33 amThanks for sharing Heather’s story…her family will be in my thoughts.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:37 amI think this is fantastic. I donated a bit.
I’m also going to email you with a prize to add to your prize tally. Just as soon as I decide what it is.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:38 amI have to wait until my paycheck is deposited, but by the end of this weekend, I will certainly donate. There’s no better feeling in life than trying to help someone when things are tough.
And, I’m with the others who said no prize is needed. I’m just so grateful you posted this link. Thank God for the internet, you know?
April 19th, 2007 at 10:42 amMy SIL has stage 4 breast cancer and 3 little ones. They told her she wouldn’t make it to see the twins go to Kindergarten but it’s looking she will - at 41 that shouldn’t sound like the victory that it is. I will read about Heather and do what I can. Thank you for sharing…
It’s interesting that you say your SIL’s funeral was the last time you went to church. I have some sort of faith and go to a Catholic church (as I was raised) b/c it’s comforting. But having a child w/a serious health condition and knowing so many people w/serious illnesses like cancer - it really makes me question the whole praying for people thing. I know some how some where it helps someone - but I really get upset at the implication that my kid will do better than someone else’s if more people pray for him - or really the opposite - someone doesn’t do well - does that mean not enough prayed for him… sorry - I guess the point I’m making is you always here that this stuff drives people TO religion - but I certainly understand how it could drive people AWAY…
April 19th, 2007 at 10:47 amI never ever do this. But today. You inspired me.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:49 amI’m curious, and you can blow me off if you want, why did you never go back to church? because of your sister-in-law’s death? Im just so church-rooted, I guess I don’t get it.
No judgement, only wanting to understand.
Thanks, Chris. So many of us are SO blessed to have a healthy family. Thanks for reminding me.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:52 amDone. I can’t imagine going through everything she has and now this on top of it.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:00 amIsn’t she the most remarkable person? I am in awe of her strength and her faith.
So thanks for spreading the word, donation done . You’re a good soul you are.
Amy
April 19th, 2007 at 11:20 amMy family donated today!
I don’t know you, or Boomama, or Heather but am happy to help and am touched by the fact that there are so many perfect (perfect being the optimal word) strangers that will come out of the woodwork to help a fellow mommy!
It makes me feel less alone deep down!
I wish women ran the world! Wouldn’t that rock?
Bless us all, every one!
April 19th, 2007 at 11:29 amDonation made minutes ago, Chris. Paypal makes giving so very easy! No prize needed…reading your blog daily is enough of a treat!! Have a wonderful day! And prayers to Almighty God for a total miraculous recovery for dear Heather.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:30 amThanks for the link. With all of the terrible things on the news today, it’s so beautiful to see someone who has such hope and who believes in a higher power. I donated.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:33 amI donated.
Thank you so much for doing this
April 19th, 2007 at 11:41 amI have been reading Heather’s story. I am floored by her strenght gained through her faith. I am a different religion from her, but it is inspiring still the same. I have donated a little to help with her travel costs.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:49 amI just donated too. Thanks for bringing more attention to Heather. She seems like a really special person.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:56 amThanks for doing this post Chris! My mom died of cancer at 65 and even that seemed like too short a life. She still had so much to do and enjoy, not the least of which was to watch her grandchildren grow up. They’ll never really know what an amazing person she was.
Heather is an amazing person.
I donated.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:59 amThank you for this opportunity to give. When I was 5, my father was diagnosed with cancer. For the 3 long years of his battle, and in all the years since his death, my family was given so much. Strangers helped with medical bills, bought groceries, set up college accounts and took my siblings and I in for months at a time when my parents travelled across the country for experimental treatments. The Christmas Eve before he died, a man my parents didn’t recognize showed up in a Santa suit with bags of gifts for all of us. Turns out he was a man who worked in the same company as my father, didn’t even know him personally, and he and his wife felt the need to give Christmas us. So now I give and give, because I can’t say thank you enough.
April 19th, 2007 at 12:13 pmLinking this too
April 19th, 2007 at 12:15 pmI donated, too, and am now pouring through her archives. Thank you for sharing this!
April 19th, 2007 at 12:19 pmI donated yesterday and posted about it too. You are a star to post this! I am honoured to be a part of something so amazing. PS I read your blog every day too!
April 19th, 2007 at 12:24 pmI donated, too. I’ll be keeping her and her family in my thoughts.
April 19th, 2007 at 12:29 pmDone! And I do believe in Heather’s God–I believe that today He worked through you!
April 19th, 2007 at 12:31 pmHave a happy day, Chris!!!
Thanks for sharing this Chris.
I had a brain tumor 7 years ago and did win the lottery. My tumor was benign and operable. I hope and pray Heather gets her miracle.
Didn’t you imply your last “prize” was a toddler-in-a-box? What’s next a surly preteen?
April 19th, 2007 at 12:39 pmhi chris,
i took your post to heart. i am a graduate student but there is always something to donate. i donated $18, which is good luck in the jewish faith. every little but helps and i hope heather gets all the help she can get.
thanks for making all of us aware of this.
stephanie tanner
April 19th, 2007 at 12:45 pmCheck out the brain cancer treatment at St. Louis University Hospital in St. Louis
April 19th, 2007 at 12:49 pmI donated the equivalent of a couple of weeks of Starbucks. She’s in my prayers. If she needs more, let us all know.
April 19th, 2007 at 12:54 pmHeather is such an awesome and inspiring gal. I just adore her. Her story has been so heavy on my heart. Because of her, I’ve been hugging my kids more, praying more, and living more. Sometimes I just need a “wake up call.” This week I’ve had two. Heather and the Virginia Tech shootings. During these times, I don’t know what I would do without faith. A faith that there is a Creator bigger than all of us and our circumstances. A hope that there is life after this short time on earth. And a promise that all we have to do is believe and follow.
Chris, I’m so glad that you posted about this. I posted last Sunday. And we are donating to Heather and her family.
April 19th, 2007 at 12:56 pmHi Chris, Although I never post comments, I read your blog all the time. (I did email you once about the Santa Clause at the mall and the spongebob cup next to the chair though and figured we had been at the same mall!) I just wanted to let you know, I also donated to Heather’s cause just a minute ago. I will be going for some brain mri’s soon for some problems I’ve been having as well and wonder what that will lead to. I will keep Heather and her family in my prayers and hope for the best! Keep up the good work on your blogging. I love to come here and get a chuckle and then even for the serious things as this!
April 19th, 2007 at 1:01 pmI donated today. Thanks for bringing it to light.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:04 pmMy heart goes out to her and her family. I have lost a mother, dad, sister, FIL and MIL to cancer. I donated and I pray everything works out. Thanks for sharing and letting us help a blog neighbor.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:12 pmThanks for the link. We donated today.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:21 pmMy prayers are with Heather and everyone who is helping her during this difficult time. I’m a graduate student, so money is tight, but I did what I could.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:25 pmI donated and don’t need a prize. Heather is an awsome person! And so are you! Church goer or not.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:34 pmI donated but don’t need a prize either. I believe in Heather’s God and believing that more will come to know Him too thru the beauty of the internet.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:40 pmdone. thanks chris!
April 19th, 2007 at 1:40 pmI stop by here daily and I’m grateful you posted about this. I went over straight away to donate. I can live without fast food for a day or two, and it’ll hopefully help her out.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:45 pmI gave what little I could yesterday. I only wish I could do more!
April 19th, 2007 at 1:48 pmdonated what small amount I still had in my Paypal account
April 19th, 2007 at 1:51 pmI donated yesterday morning. I am so thrilled to see what a response there’s been. Thanks for putting this on your site.
April 19th, 2007 at 1:55 pmHi Chris,
April 19th, 2007 at 1:58 pmI am a daily reader of your blog. Thank you for pointing me in the direction my heart needed to go today. My prayers go out to Heahter’s whole family. I hope that my contribution plus many many more will help. We are all but one moment away from the unknown. Family and friends known and unknown are what help us through this journey.Faith is what fills in the gaps and pushes us on. Faith in God and Faith in each other.
I donated today. I have been reading her story since her diagnoses and my heart has been breaking with every word I read. My prayers are up for her.
April 19th, 2007 at 2:02 pmI stumbled across her blog a week ago and read 90% of it. I will be donating to her…I wish I could give her an entire week’s paycheck or a year’s salary….sadly, I can’t.
Why? Why would some be turned off and not return to your site? Yes, I’m THAT stupid and am asking.
April 19th, 2007 at 2:13 pmchris,
April 19th, 2007 at 2:32 pmi’m delurking (first time ever) to thank you for directing me to heather’s site and to boomama’s so i could help in my small way. my thoughts and prayers are with heather and her family.
Another mommy blog mentioned this (Mormon Mommy Wars), but I got interrupted and didn’t click through to see what it was (darn kids!). So I’m extra glad you posted about it, too. I can’t do much, but I can a little…and hopefully it will help. I can’t imagine being in that situation. The only thing that scares me more than losing my kids or my husband is not being here for them through their lives…I’m praying for Heather and her family.
April 19th, 2007 at 2:47 pmIsn’t this great that we can help (even if it’s in a small way) Heather and her family. I don’t know her, I don’t know you for that matter, but through these blogs and the “friendship” we feel through them, we are able to help. Thanks for spreading the word.
April 19th, 2007 at 2:58 pmDelurking to say thank you for making it easier for us to help others!
April 19th, 2007 at 3:04 pm“You’ve sent a secure payment of $2.79 USD to Heather G***** through PayPal. You’ll receive an email receipt shortly.”
I was going to try that new mocha drink at BK, but I’d much rather do this.
April 19th, 2007 at 3:17 pmSending prayers to Heather and her family, and for you and yours too Chris.
[...] If you’ve been a part of Heather’s love offering and would like to be eligible for some great prizes, then head over to this post of Chris’ and leave a comment - and that’s all you have to do. [...]
April 19th, 2007 at 3:43 pmThanks for hosting this prize giveaway - what a neat thing to do. I donated yesterday.
April 19th, 2007 at 3:49 pmI donated too. It is a heart wrenching story. So many struggles for that family and now this. I feel blessed to simply have my health right now.
April 19th, 2007 at 3:51 pmBooMama sent me this direction. I have been blessed to help with Kelli and now Heather. Not a whole lot, but a little bit helps. If everyone does just a little bit, it turns into a whole lot! Just take a look at the numbers and see….I am so glad to be a part of this. WE should be the ones saying thank you…thank you for sharing your stories with us.
April 19th, 2007 at 3:51 pmI donated yesterday morning. Still.In.Awe about the unbelievable things God can do when we join together. Thanks for the prize giveaway. I just found your website a few days ago and am excited to go through your archives.
Michelle
April 19th, 2007 at 3:53 pmI contributed as well. Thank you for this. You’re sweet to acknowledge something Christ calls us to do as second nature! *wink*
April 19th, 2007 at 3:55 pmI donated some of the random money that accumulates in Paypal. Happy to donate jewelry to the cause.
I know how much support I’ve gotten with my (completely different, non-cancer) illness and pain, and hope to help others like I have been helped.
April 19th, 2007 at 3:55 pmI donated, and that’s prize enough. (But, if you wanted to throw chocolate at me or something, it’s not like I’d throw it back.)
I’m so thrilled with all the people doing their part to love on Heather.
April 19th, 2007 at 3:57 pmI believe in Heather’s God, and you my new-blogging-friend/stranger….are a mirror of his compassionate love! Honestly, the bloggers that I have run across while praying for and donating to Heather…..is simply awe-inspiring. Very few of us actually “know” Heather…still, blogging friends and strangers alike have rallied to her support. This is truly a God-thing.
And to top it off….Heather continues to minister to us via her blog. It is my prayer that what the enemy means for harm……God will (continue) to use for His glory!
I donated yesterday morning really early and was thrilled each time I clicked over to BooMama’s to watch the totals rise!
Thank you for your part in this as well! I am so sorry for the loss of your dear SIL: there can be no doubt….your generosity and goodness of spirit is a reflection of the legacy that she left in your life.
Blessing to you….our new friend!
April 19th, 2007 at 4:00 pmDiane
I think this is wonderful! Amazing, really! I would love to win a prize, too!! I did donate and post about Heather already, too.
Steph
April 19th, 2007 at 4:04 pmI donated and linked. Came here from BooMama after checking out the amazing progress. You are right, prizes are fun. So here I am.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:07 pm[...] Chris has posted a wonderful entry today about giving. Yesterday, I wrote about making a donation to help a family in need. I don’t know Heather, but she is friends with several of my good friends. No one should have to deal with the medical problems that face her family. [...]
April 19th, 2007 at 4:09 pmFound you through BooMama - Thank you for spreading the word even further! So amazingly thoughtful for not even knowing her! Blessings!
April 19th, 2007 at 4:11 pmHere I am ::waving hand in the air:: pick me pick me
I am honored to have taken part in the love offering! xoxo melzie
April 19th, 2007 at 4:11 pmPraying for Heather. May god multiply the gifts and love and concern behind the gifts.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:16 pmThank you for doing this for Heather. I hope all our donations make it a little easier for Heather and her family.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:17 pmI never liked Starbucks, anyway! Heather can have my cup…and kee the change.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:18 pmI donated, too! Thank you!
April 19th, 2007 at 4:29 pmYour story ’bout your sil just brought tears to my eyes…anyway, just wanted to say “I was there donating” and hope many great things happen for Heather, and for you too! for doing this!
April 19th, 2007 at 4:32 pmWow - thanks. It’s wonderful to be a part of this. I am so sorry for the loss of your sister. I will pray that you come to know this God who already loves you so much. xo
April 19th, 2007 at 4:32 pmI was moved by the story of your sil.i donated.you will be in my praters also.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:35 pmGod is truly watching out for Heather through awesome people like you Chris. I have Heather’s button on my site and donated yesterday. Keeping Heather, Emma, and her family in my thoughts and prayers.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:35 pmI donated. As before, amazing to be a part of it.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:37 pmWe did to. If the MOMs don’t fight for and help each other- who else will?!
Thanks for passing on the message-
April 19th, 2007 at 4:40 pmI’m so sorry about your SIL. I’m sure that was a hard time for everyone. I’m glad you are doing this for Heather. And for believing in the goodness of people.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:40 pmIsn’t it amazing how much was raised all together? I seriously get chills when I read the total!
I donated yesterday- how I wish I could give more. But I am praying and you can know that God is listening. What is answer will be, I don’t know. But I do know we can trust Him - even when it doesn’t feel like it.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:40 pmI donated yesterday and I jsut feel so blessed to have been a part of this effort. Thank you for holding a drawing too - what a neat idea!
Big hugs to all of you ladies - together we are touching lives and showing the world what can be done through God’s love!!!
April 19th, 2007 at 4:41 pmI donated…thanks for making so many people aware of her situation.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:42 pmDonated yesterday and I’m believing!
April 19th, 2007 at 4:43 pmIve come here a few times today, each time not really knowing how to respond. Chris, thank you for your kindness, for your compassion but most of all for your heart.
My God loves you so very much. I pray that through my journey, you see Him in a real and tangible way. I can read the pain in your post, it made me want to reach out and wrap my arms around you tightly.
So, pretend. As crazy as is sounds, this complete stranger just gave you a hug
Be Blessed,
April 19th, 2007 at 4:46 pmHeather
I just donated. Thank you for the link. I will be passing it along all day today. I would never have known her or her story if it weren’t for the link so thank you. God bless her and her family.
April
April 19th, 2007 at 4:56 pmThank you for doing this for Heather, and for the opportunity to give. I pray that she’ll be able to tell her grandchildren about the doctor’s remarks about “20 years” and about this outpouring of love from strangers.
It’s wonderful to know that so many people are willing to give to someone they don’t even know, because they care. I’m sure that is a great comfort to Heather.
April 19th, 2007 at 4:56 pmi donated… nobody needs fear of money problems on top of what she’s going through right now…
April 19th, 2007 at 5:02 pmI’m sorry for the loss of your sister-in-law.
But what you are doing to drum up more interest for Heather’s story is pretty great.
We donated a day late (according to the whole donation drive). But I was happy to send anything their way because my life just seems so much easier in comparison to a chronically ill child and a brain tumor for myself.
God Bless them.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:05 pmI donated yesterday and did a post directing people to hopefully donate as well.
I’ve been feeling bad that I could give more than I did until I read your post… you are right… even enough to buy them a meal while they are on their trip to the Mayo clinic… I’m sure they would appreciate that much.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:07 pmI dontated today too. I pray for God to touch Heather and her family, as I know only He can. And I pray for Him to touch you, and the many many others who have reached out to touch Heather.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:07 pmOh wow,I’m so sorry to hear about your sister-in-law. Thanks for pitching in to help out Heather and her family though this difficult time. I’m so glad that there are people like you & Boomama that step up to the plate and organize these things while I’m just sitting around stupefied.
I did donate though. And I’m just glad that you all gave me the opportunity!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:07 pmChris — God is there. He is waiting for you. You must decide for yourself. God bless,
Sallie
April 19th, 2007 at 5:09 pmChris,
Thanks for doing this for Heather. I am sure her socks are being blessed right off of her feet.
You are a very good person (with a very good sense of humor).
April 19th, 2007 at 5:16 pmI donated yesterday. God sure is moving some mountains, its incredible!
Im sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my prayers today.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:24 pmHow can you have a heart and not give. I gave, because one day me or mine may need help. And I believe what you do for others will be done for you.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:24 pmI am still in amazement over the amount that was raised for Heather. I felt so inadequate giving as little as I did, but it sure did multiply!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:24 pmI donated yesterday. I had never heard of Heather until last week. It is amazing how God can bring people together.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:25 pmI donated yesterday. It’s amazing how God is working!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:26 pmChris - this is my 1st time commenting here but I *LOVE* your blog and read it daily. (((I’m SO very sorry to hear about your sister-in-law! That’s heartbreaking.))) I wanted you to know that I just donated to Heather and linked to your blog in my blog post about Heather. I hope it inspires more people to donate.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:30 pmBlessings ~ Diane
We donated yesterday. God is at work!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:33 pmThanks Chris! I have been amazed, but often am when God moves like this. you’d think I’d expect it by now! I was honored to help Heather and am thrilled at the total so far. You go girls!!!! (and guys too)
April 19th, 2007 at 5:34 pmDonated yesterday, I can’t believe it’s up over $11,000, actually I can believe it! Thanks for helping to support a wonderful cause by running this contest.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:39 pmWe donated yesterday. Thank you for your link and note!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:39 pmI donated, but I don’t really feel like I’ve done much by giving money. But I will pray to a God who owns all the money & resources there are to give, and is generous to use them when it comes to meeting needs of people looking to HIM for provision. I pray for Heather and her family. I pray for God to use this situation for HIS glory and for HIs people to love and encourage one another.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:41 pmFor with God, NOTHING is impossible!
Thanks Chris for doing this. Heather is a true blessing to me and I was so glad to be able to donate to such a worthy person. You can believe in her God. He’s awesome!! Just look at those $$$!!! Yeh God!!!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:41 pmChris, I’m so sorry about the loss of your sister. I know what it feels like to lose family. Since the year 2000 I’ve lost my mom, my 29 yr old daughter, two aunts, a cousin, my father and my mother-in-law. My daughter’s passing in 2003 hit us hard, but God picked me up out of my despair and loved me through my grief. Without Him, I don’t think I could have gotten through it. My daughter left behind 8 yr old twin girls when she passed away due to Juvenile Diabetes complications. There is a post about her on 4/7/07 if you have time at some point. Thanks again for sharing for Heather! ~ Bonnie
April 19th, 2007 at 5:43 pmGod led me to Heather’s website months ago and I’m so grateful he did because I am now SEEING SERVICE in HIS name! I feel so grateful for what He has given me and am happy to donate to such a worthy cause. Thanks for further promoting HIS work with your giveaway. God bless ~ Shelley H.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:46 pmI donated yesterday… thanks so much for giving this even more publicity over here at your place. God bless.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:48 pmThank you for helping to pass the word along. I look forward to seeing what God will do in Heather’s life.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:50 pmI donated yesterday. May God bless Heather and her family!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:50 pmNo blog of my own, I just love to eavesdrop on all of you…
I am blessed to be able to help this family in a small way! Heather is an inspiration!
April 19th, 2007 at 5:51 pmWe donated today–Thank you so much for posting about this.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:56 pmMy thoughts and prayers are with Heather and your family, too, Chris. I hope my prayers and the small amount of money I donated help get the ass of this tumor KICKED.
Why am I always the one saying “ass”???
Kirsten
April 19th, 2007 at 5:58 pmI’ve already got my prize. My oldest son was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s lymphoma at the age of 19. Today he is 6 years in remission with a beautiful almost 3 year old and another little girl due in a couple of weeks. I pray that God blesses Heather and her family as he has blessed us. We not only have life, it is a life of abundance for we have learned to trust God absolutely even and especially when life is at its darkest.
April 19th, 2007 at 5:58 pmI was glad to be able to help Heather in a small way by making a donation. I am sure it will mean a great deal to her to have so many people thinking of her. You are very thoughtful to have posted about her here.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:00 pmI was very sorry to hear about your sister in law, and feel the same way as you about God.
I donated yesterday as well. It’s amazing the click of one button made me feel so full inside.
Heather’s story is really renewing my faith.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:10 pmI donated. I hope she comes through this.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:12 pmHeather is an inspiration and I too donated today!
April 19th, 2007 at 6:19 pmDonated too! Thank you.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:20 pmAs a sister in Christ - I had to give to Heather and her family. It is our prayer that God use her in a big big way - she has blessed me so much and I don’t even know her. She inspires me to dig deeper and deeper into the Word. May God bless you Heather.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:27 pmI donated to Heather’s fund…but, want to donate a prize for you to give away! Can you contact me at kelly.fisher@hfbc.org? I am the copyright holder and designer of the BELIEVE GOD bracelet. I am sending one to Heather…and would like to donate one for you to give away - along with the other prizes! Thanks for doing this…I know it means the world to Heather to know that we love and care about her!
April 19th, 2007 at 6:34 pmIt was heavy on my heart yesterday to give, so I called my sweet husband at work and said, “Can I give some money to a mom of 3 named Heather, who has a brain tumor? I don’t know her, but she loves the Lord.” He said, without hesitation, “Sure!” So with prayers for complete healing and asking a blessing on each one who gave, I thank you for spreading the Word!
April 19th, 2007 at 6:37 pmLove in Him,
Holly Smith
It was such a blessing to give what I could to help Heather, I can’t imagine a prize on top of that! You are really a generous person. Thanks for doing this.
May God bless you and your family.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:37 pmI am impressed with your post - with your honesty - with your willingness to still have faith. May God Bless You.
We donated yesterday, and I’ve been just giddy, watching the total rise
April 19th, 2007 at 6:43 pmWhat a lovely post. I gave as well and was thrilled to be even a small part of what God is doing for this dear family.
Thanks for hosting!
April 19th, 2007 at 6:52 pmI donated yesterday and I was so happy to be part of such a wonderful showing of support for Heather!
April 19th, 2007 at 6:52 pmSo glad to hear that you’re on the bandwagon! I participated too!
April 19th, 2007 at 6:58 pmDonated yesterday. It was lovely to post this.
April 19th, 2007 at 6:58 pmIt was a privilege to be part of this effort. Heather is an amazing woman!
April 19th, 2007 at 7:00 pmI donated yesterday. If I happen to win, I would want the item to be sent to Heather and her family.
You are amazing to organize this!
April 19th, 2007 at 7:02 pmthanks for doing this. it was so fun to donate.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:07 pmI donated yesterday as well.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:11 pmYour post pulled me out in the open…I’m officially delurking to let you know I donated yesterday.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:14 pmWhat a wonderful blessing. I donated for Heather and her family yesterday and while part of me is amazed at the generosity the other part of me says - Go God! He’s so great!!!!
April 19th, 2007 at 7:14 pmThank you for reminding me how lucky I am. A donation and best wishes to Heather and family
April 19th, 2007 at 7:15 pmI’ve lost all but one of my family to different cancers. The help and support from so many of their friends was priceless. I stumbled across your blog in this last year. And it’s become a welcome part of my day to read what’s new. You make me laugh. But not today. Thank you for sharing Heather’s story. And isn’t it wonderful that things like the internet and paypal make it possible for us to help with the click of a mouse. I wish I could give more. Keep us posted.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:18 pmDonated on honor of Heather and my Grandmother, Lindy, who died of cancer 4 years ago next week. Prayers for both of them.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:19 pmI donated. my first time here and i really like it. i’ll be back to read more.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:22 pmI had fully intended to donate and then somehow or another “my life” got in the way and I forgot. Until today. Your post reminded me and your words made me stop - in the middle of your post - to go do it. So. I did. Thanks for the nudge.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:24 pmI have been thinking about your post all day. Praying about what response to give, if any. Suffering is so, so, hard to understand. I have lost 9 children. 5 early miscarriages. A twin daughter that died at birth. I have two children that died with the cord around their necks at 18 and 14 weeks gestation and a son that died at 16 weeks. Each time it has been terrible, terrible pain and suffering. Thankfully, each time I was brought closer and closer to Christ. Bottom line is the suffering was happening and it was easier to suffer with Him than without Him.
I have one recommendation to all that struggle with the “mystery” of suffering. It is a book that helped me tremendouosly by Father Jim Willig called “Lessons from the School of Suffering”. (available through Amazon) It recounts his struggle on a physical, human and spiritual level with cancer, which eventually takes his life.
God doesn’t expect us to understand. But when we turn away from Him, we miss out on the peace that only He can give and He wants us to desperately have.
If anyone ever needs to come to St. Louis for one of our awesome medical facilities, please contact me. adkeipp@sbcglobal.net
Our hearts and our home are always open.
BTW, God has blessed us with 6 children on earth, 2 of which are adopted from Russia.
We are tremendously blessed
April 19th, 2007 at 7:29 pmI was honored to be able to donate what I could. I am blown away by the response. Wow!!
Laura
April 19th, 2007 at 7:34 pmGod is truly in the miracle business! He is so amazing! I had read about Heather on a Christian friend of mine’s blog a couple of days ago. She lives in the south in a different state from me. And then I come here today and see your blog about Heather. My friend doesn’t know you and you more than likely haven’t even seen her blog. It’s like the six degrees of Kevin Bacon. God just weaves a tapestry with our lives touching and crossing in beautiful patterns.
My family and I gave to Heather and are praying for a healing miracle from God for her life.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:37 pmDonated- not much, but every little bit helps. Our youngest is a survivor, so we know. Oh, how we know…
April 19th, 2007 at 7:39 pmHi!
I lost my Mom/best friend to cancer so I didn’t think twice about donating. I firmly believe the right treatment is out there…and it’s wonderful networks like this that make getting TO that treatment possible.
God bless,
April 19th, 2007 at 7:45 pmKatie
Chris-
Thank you so much for doing this. This is why we are human and loving and caring. I have sent a little something, consider it quid pro quo for making me laugh, making me cry and making me care.
I think that considering the sickness of this week, it is wonderful to do something for myself that is so uplifting.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:48 pmI was blow away by the response. I to gave, and my amount seemed so small, but when you see it all added together it is like Jesus feeding the 5000. Praise God!
April 19th, 2007 at 7:51 pmThanks, Chris for the opportunity to share in this cause. We’ve given what we could and pray for Heather’s strength to get through this. It’s amazing the dollars BooMama has helped raise from, I imagine, all over the world.
April 19th, 2007 at 7:57 pmI know what you mean about being in awe of Heather’s faith. I too have often questioned God’s will and plan when I have seen cancer ravage my husband’s family. His father died when he was 13, his mother when he was 23. His grandfather, grandmothers on both sides, his aunt and now his last remaining aunt has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Is it fair? No. Is it his plan? Maybe, must be??!? This disease has devastated my family.
In any case, my heart goes out to Heather at this time. My family has donated to her in the hopes that it will help in some small way. And exactly what you said, the inherent goodness of people and their willingness to help a person in need, is truly an amazing, amazing gift.
April 19th, 2007 at 8:01 pmDidn’t dontate so I could “win” something; that just makes the pot sweeter - winning something is the best thing in the world
April 19th, 2007 at 8:04 pmMy family donated yesterday, and we are praying for Heather. I hope that perhaps, through all of this, you might come closer to the God she (and I) love and understand that He loves you, too.
April 19th, 2007 at 8:06 pmChris
April 19th, 2007 at 8:11 pmAfter reading your post I followed the link to Heather’s. Man did it ever resonate. My husband is a heart surgeon and transplant is his specialty. He spent 4 years in a neurosurgery residency before changing specialties. He see and I hear about many sad cases every year. Heather has really had more had her share and I applaud everyone who has come forward to help. We’ll be giving a donation tonight.(Please don’t add me to a prize list)
I have to say reading her journey both with her daughter’s illness and now hers and witnessing her remarkable faith has really affected me. I’m not a terribly spiritual person and I am truly moved!
You underestimate that higher power Chris. You witness for him daily in the wonderful loving family you and your husband have created.
mak
My sister has a blog and I am new to this. I reached Heather through her. I am a preachers daughter as well. I am in prayer for her family. My desire is to only be half of the Christian she is. I pray that if I am ever faced with something like this I can only be slightly as positive and prayful as she is. She is truly a blessing and a mother to strive to be like. I hope she knows she has people all over the US praying for her tonight. The blogging community is truly a unique family. You guys are GREAT.
April 19th, 2007 at 8:21 pmI too have been so touched by Heather. I wish I had the faith that she does. I donated yesterday,
April 19th, 2007 at 8:21 pmCount me in.
April 19th, 2007 at 8:28 pmThank you for sharing her story…her faith is amazing. Donation done, with tears in my eyes.
April 19th, 2007 at 8:35 pmI gave but I would of given without the giveaways. Thank you for thinking of this.
April 19th, 2007 at 8:44 pmThank you for organizing this! Donation done yesterday!
April 19th, 2007 at 8:47 pmThanks so much for your heartfelt post.
I want you to know Heather’s God, too. And He does, too. He loves you as much as he loves Heather.
Thanks again!
April 19th, 2007 at 8:51 pmHeather AND her daughter Emma are such an inspriation to me-I had to give something.
April 19th, 2007 at 9:04 pmThanks for doing this. The power of the internet never ceases to amaze me-this time through you and BooMama.
My teenaged daughter had cancer…she just passed 2 years off treatment…that’s how I came to this blog…on a link from Kristie’s blog, whose 4 year old daughter had the same cancer as mine. I’ve got a donation going out as my mission is now to help others with cancer.
April 19th, 2007 at 9:09 pmThank you for your honesty. It would do the Christian community well if we were as honest. The truth is, I am believing God. I want my family to say that I was one who believed God, no matter the outcome of this whole situation or of my life. He has a plan for those who would confess Him as Lord and Saviour, and those plans are for good and not for evil. To someone who doesn’t believe in my God, this would sound so hypocritical, but it isn’t.
April 19th, 2007 at 9:27 pmThanks for being used of Him. I donated yesterday, and it increases my faith in Him that He would multiply our small offerings into something big. He really does take care of His own.
It was a blessing to give to Heather! Thanks for setting this up and bringing in that much more help for her family.
April 19th, 2007 at 9:33 pmI’ve never had the pleasure of reading your blog — and I’m amazed at the generosity of people … you have a large group of faithful readers — thank you for what you have done for Heather! I believe the Lord is using bloggers to answer prayers for her monetary needs …
April 19th, 2007 at 9:35 pmI was kind of feeling alone–I haven’t been to church in forever and don’t consider myself a believer in God, but I do believe in the power of people to come together for good and to make a difference, especially in numbers. It goes to show that ‘your drop in the bucket’, as my donation was, is still pretty powerful—when combined with everyone else’s drops, it’s a flood of biblical proportions….
April 19th, 2007 at 9:37 pmHubby and I donated too. What a blessing and work of God!!!
April 19th, 2007 at 9:41 pmIt is amazing what He can do with just a little!
April 19th, 2007 at 9:53 pmThank you so much for what you are doing for Heather. This is wonderful of you.I am sorry about your loss. I gave for Heather yesterday but wanted to stop by and say thank you .
April 19th, 2007 at 9:57 pmI know exactly how you feel - I have a hard time asking people to donate, but Heather is definitely worth it. Well-written!
April 19th, 2007 at 9:58 pmI donated (because of Heather and because of your SIL.)
April 19th, 2007 at 10:07 pmIt’s a wonderful thing you’re doing.
Bless you.
I just made my contribution. I think cancer has found it’s way into all of our lives. Those who haven’t had someone they know and love suffer from it are truly blessed.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:22 pmI donated. I wish I had faith like her. Maybe someday I will.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:23 pmWe donated a bit to Heather yesterday. Her testimony to God’s goodness is amazing.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:27 pmI just found your blog two days ago and read about Heather today. I donated…had to…she’s an inspiration and every little bit helps. Thanks for doing this for her.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:34 pmThanks for the link, we’re in.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:44 pmMy kids and I donated yesterday. What a wonderful thing for so many people to come together and do something like this.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:50 pmPretty amazing, isn’t it? I linked to her yesterday, and donated. Thanks for spreading the word.
April 19th, 2007 at 10:53 pmI am so thankful to have been able to be a part of this “lovin’ for Heather and her family”!
April 19th, 2007 at 10:56 pmHer faith is extremely inspiring!!! I too linked yesterday - so awesome that the blog world comes together for others!!!!
April 19th, 2007 at 11:02 pmShe can have ALL my starbucks money for the month.
I don’t need to entered in the drawing.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:16 pmI am so absolutely astounded by the outpouring of love that I have seen for Heather!
We donated a mere dollar — and it is so exciting to see how the Lord has multiplied all of those little dollars.
I am sorry to hear about your sister in law.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:22 pmIn memory of my Dad.
Thanks Kris!
April 19th, 2007 at 11:24 pmThis is one of the most truly wonderful things I have seen since I started blogging! All of these people coming together for an inspiring individual.
I posted about this a few days ago. I am so happy you chose to also. You are a highly regarded site, with the traffic flow to show for it. You are truly wonderful Chris!
April 19th, 2007 at 11:32 pmI donated Heather my small contribution, in honor of my grand-father and my aunt (both died from cancer) and to give hope to my friend that has an undefined ‘mass’ in the center of her brain.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:32 pmHeather’s faith is making its mark on my heart. The love offering to help her at this critical time has also made a mark. We were thankful to be able to give.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:45 pmBlessings,
~Toni~
I donated today. Thank You for the reminder. I cant believe its over 14,000 that is amazing. God is good.
April 19th, 2007 at 11:47 pmThank you, Chris, for helping in this way so that many others could help too. I am amazed at the total and hope to see it rocket even higher!
Mostly I am hoping for a diagnosis for Heather that states “Benign and operable” for Heather also. All of our best wishes Heather!
April 19th, 2007 at 11:55 pmAndrea
I followed BooMama’s link to your blog tonight, and am so glad I did. You’re now bookmarked and will be receiving regular visits from me!
Thank you so much for organizing this giveaway. I donated yesterday and am amazed at how much love and support is being directed Heather’s way from the blogosphere.
April 20th, 2007 at 12:02 amI have been reading about Heather for a while now, I donated yesterday, and joined in and offered a prize in the prize drawing that Beth at “I should be folding Laundry” did - it feels so good to help…and I am so grateful to be able to!
April 20th, 2007 at 12:04 amHow awesome. We give because we want to (as I did) but how awesome that there are giveaways and prizes. Count me in. And Thanks!
April 20th, 2007 at 12:06 amWe gave yesterday and I’m promoting the donations (and your drawing) on my blog too.
THANKS THANKS THANKS!
April 20th, 2007 at 12:09 am– Tara B.
i donated. i don’t want to be in the drawing, i just wanted you to know that i’ve linked you, boomama, and heather on my site. and that i’m praying for all of you. what amazing hearts!
April 20th, 2007 at 12:10 amGreat of you to do this. I know from personal experience how much it means to have the extra financial support when going through critical illness and long hospital stays, etc. There are so many unexpected expenses–in addition to the medical ones. How amazing that this community of bloggers has been able to do so much. You,boomama, and anyone else involved in the organization of this effort are angels!
April 20th, 2007 at 12:40 amI just donated. We help people in other countries, fight war and spend billions of dollars on “things”. It’s nice to help someone here at home.
April 20th, 2007 at 1:02 amMy prayers go out to Heather and her family. And thank you Chris, for taking this on.
tam
Donated yesterday and have been following Heather. I “got to know” her when she invited me as a moderator at MOG. Her faith is wondrous and the love gifts are amazing.
April 20th, 2007 at 1:05 amHeather’s faith in the face of this is inspiring. I donated today and have been praying for her.
April 20th, 2007 at 1:35 amThank you Chris. I donated today. The power of a blogging community will never cease to amaze me.
April 20th, 2007 at 1:41 amDone.
April 20th, 2007 at 4:12 amStanding in the gap for Heather.
I donated because of your link. Heather is amazing.
I also have a hard time with praying for people through illness. My firstborn son died an hour after he was born. There is always this nagging thought - “Why should prayer heal someone else when it didn’t heal Caleb?” But a friend of mine had a really good insight. Her (then) 6 month old son was diagnosed with brain cancer. A year later his recovery has literally been miraculous. People now look at Thomas and say that their prayers were answered. On her blog, Sarah responded:
“I think it’s too soon for me to talk about this, maybe. I guess I’m just thinking about people who are not as lucky as we are. I don’t think it’s because God is ignoring them. I don’t think that if Thomas’s tumor comes back that it is because God has not answered prayers.
I guess what I’m saying is that I still think grace is real, and present, and one of our miracles is that it has been available to us in the middle of cancer, and not just now at [what seems like] the end.”
Amen.
Summer
April 20th, 2007 at 5:29 amI’m in. My poor kids. It seems this week I’ve been holding them tighter and tighter.
April 20th, 2007 at 6:43 amOur hearts and prayers are with Heather and her family.
Thought it wasn’t much , we did donate today. But ever 20, 50 even 1 $ makes a difference.
Chris - I read your page often and I love that you too have opened your heart.
Big BIG hugs to you
April 20th, 2007 at 7:25 amWe had a friend who found a lump during a self-examination and was diagnosed with breast cancer at 32. She always fought it very aggressively, even insisting on a double mastectomy when the doctors didn’t feel that drastic step was quite necessary. She did everything, but still died at 33, leaving her 4 year old daughter behind.
I don’t want that to happen to Heather or her family. I hope all our small donations can help.
April 20th, 2007 at 7:33 amI donated yesterday and plan to again
April 20th, 2007 at 7:39 amWe’ve donated as well, and are continuing to spread the word to anyone who’ll listen.
Thanks for what you’re doing!
April 20th, 2007 at 7:41 amWe continue to pray for Heather and her family. Thank you for playing a part.
April 20th, 2007 at 7:55 amI donated two days ago. I appreciate you spreading the word on your high traffic site. I am so thrilled that we have all been able to help. Thank you.
April 20th, 2007 at 8:21 amWhat a blessing to a part of a group of generous people. Our world is not the same as it was 10 years ago, and things like this reveal that there are still Godly caring people around. You are in my prayers Heather.
April 20th, 2007 at 8:27 amThanks for sharing the link. I’m in.
April 20th, 2007 at 8:29 amI’m so happy to be a part of this cause! If it weren’t for your blog, I wouldn’t have even known about Heather. Thanks for giving me the opportunity to give for a special cause today;-)
April 20th, 2007 at 8:32 amI didn’t know about Heather so thanks for the post. I made a donation today.
I love your blog!
April 20th, 2007 at 8:46 amI donated what I could. I wish it was more.
My father died of cancer when he was 52 and left me, my sister and my little brother and sister. I know what it is liek to lose a parent. I don’t want my kids to know.
April 20th, 2007 at 8:55 amI have just spent the last few hours pouring over Heather’s blog, reading and weeping for her. We made a donation and will be checking back in on her often. Like you said, it is neat in a week such as this to have a reason to believe in the goodness of people–strangers no less.
April 20th, 2007 at 9:07 amI’m in. Thank you for the link.
April 20th, 2007 at 9:12 amLeft a donation for Heather today. She and her family are in my prayers.
April 20th, 2007 at 9:18 amI donated a small bit of money and a whole bunch of prayers. I can’t believe how all this came together with people just doing what they could for someone they don’t even know.
April 20th, 2007 at 9:25 amFor the record, I did not give in order to receive any compensation. But, I am always up for anything free! What a wonderful woman she is!
April 20th, 2007 at 9:31 amI donated as well this morning. It wasn’t much but it all adds up in the end. Heather and her family are in my prayers!
April 20th, 2007 at 9:42 amI have not donated money yet so don’t put me in the drawing. I just want to comment how blessed and touched I am that you are doing this. I have been praying a lot for Heather and has been posting about her since I heard about her tumor. I had been announcing Boomama’s fund raising for her and I will do the same on this. I love it when you said “I want to believe in that God of Heather’s, I do.” I think Heather would be so happy to hear that
I know she would.
April 20th, 2007 at 9:56 amWho knows where we REALLY are with regard to God? We are all trying to make sense of it all, in our own ways which sometimes coincide, but with various nuances. Bless you and Heather and all of those good people around (I ma here from Boomama’s).There is hope, then, in this crazy world.
April 20th, 2007 at 9:58 amWhat do I have to offer to your draw? A year’s advice on anything Greek including recipes and travelling.
Be well.
Yep, I’ve been following up with Heather and BooMama and all that for a bit now. And I just subscribed to your blog about a week ago, so I found it coincidental you are now on board, too! Thanks for that.
God is indeed good. All the time.
April 20th, 2007 at 10:09 amI’m with Sarah…I didn’t donate for reward or for praise. But I would never turn down free stuff!
April 20th, 2007 at 10:27 amYou are hilarious! Thanks for organizing this all. Sent some love for Heather…
April 20th, 2007 at 10:33 amHi Chris - anything for you! I love reading your blog.
April 20th, 2007 at 10:38 amGod has blown my socks off with the response that everyone has shown. PayPal, prayers and posting everywhere… there’s a play in there somewhere, I just know it…
I donated, again - not for praise or reward, unless you count the great feeling I had, knowing that I was a vessel whom God used and the happiness felt from